It’s not so easy task to bring up two kids as a single mother. She has to play the role of both the parents at the same time. Though, a single mom may enjoy a unique challenge and at the same time a special joy being the most pampered queen of her own castle. Raising kids is always very challenging, but doing this alone may be more stressful, a bit chaotic. You have to struggle between taking care of your kids and supporting your family at the same time. It may send a strong woman to an emotional upheavals.
Like another girls, I also would dream of a close knit family with two kids. Though the reality was completely different from this fantasy after separation. And I have raised two kids alone. But, this doesn’t mean that I am unhappy with my life. As a mom I have raised my sons to be the men with those qualities I would like to see in my husband.
Today, I am going to talk about my journey as a single mother and you can see them as my tips to help you with your journey as a single parent. Firstly, I want to say what are the positive facts about this journey.
The positive facts about single parenting:
- You are free to do what you think about your child. You don’t have to negotiate with anyone else. There is freedom, strength, bravery and grace in your life.
- You can expect a strong bond with your kids, as I do have with my sons. We are very close to each other. I know everything about their lives and they too are aware of.
- You can discover yourself strong, smart and confident throughout the journey. Everyday challenges make you “cool” and you will find many people will love and respect you.
- And the best part is that your child will grow up with strong and confident personality. They will become your best friend and support system.
The things you need to remember when you are raising kids alone:
- Simplify your life as much as possible. It’ll reduce your stress of managing everything alone. Yours is a one woman show from running the household to taking care of the kids, and working full time jobs to support them.
- Make a list of what is important and put them in order of preference. What is the first priority (you should have clear concept about this) will come on the number one in the list. Do, whatever comes in the top of the list. And the rest?? Just forget them. It’ll keep you in balance.
- Let your kids make the habit of doing their job on their own. They should finish their work on their own without depending on you or their siblings. This helps them to be confident and responsible. And you also don’t have to worry about every single thing in your life.
- Give them freedom. Let them make their own decisions. You just let them know the positive or negative sides of the things. They will be matured when you trust in their instincts. Thus, it’ll help them find what is right or wrong when making decisions.
- Always talk with your kids. You must let your kids know that you are always available for conversation. You can talk about what has happened in your life. That may help them to open their minds to you.
- Schedule your alone time. This time (mine is at night) may help reduce your stress and refuel your energy and spirit to start another hectic day.
- Revive your passion. In our battle of life we always forget about our talents or God-given gifts. Once, you may love dancing and your stage performance might have pleased many. Why don’t you start again? This may make you feel stuffed and alive. Just as my passion for writing has ignited me to start blogging.
- Don’t you think we need friends to feed our spirits? We need them to make us laugh, encourage us or support us. They will walk beside us in our tough journey and help us remember who we are.
So, let’s enjoy being a mom, not a single mother and celebrate the precious gift of life, “Motherhood”.