9 Things every Single Mom to Challenge

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It’s not so easy task to bring up two kids as a single mother. She has to play the role of both the parents at the same time. Though, a single mom may enjoy a unique challenge and at the same time a special joy being the most pampered queen of her own castle. 

Raising kids is always very challenging, but doing this alone may be more stressful, a bit chaotic. You have to struggle between taking care of your kids and supporting your family at the same time. It may send a strong woman to an emotional upheavals.

Like another girls, I also would dream of a close knit family with two kids. Though the reality was completely different from this fantasy after separation. And I have raised two kids alone. But, this doesn’t mean that I am unhappy with my life. As a mom I have raised my sons to be the men with those qualities I would like to see in my husband. 

Today, I am going to talk about my journey as a single mother and you can see them as my tips to help you with your journey as a single parent. Firstly, I want to say what are the positive facts about this journey.

The positive facts about single parenting:

  • You are free to do what you think about your child. You don’t have to negotiate with anyone else. There is freedom, strength, bravery and grace in your life.
  • You can expect a strong bond with your kids, as I do have with my sons. We are very close to each other. I know everything about their lives and they too are aware of.
  • You can discover yourself strong, smart and confident throughout the journey. Everyday challenges make you “cool” and you will find many people will love and respect you.
  • And the best part is that your child will grow up with strong and confident personality. They will become your best friend and support system.

The things you need to remember when you are raising kids alone:

  1. Simplify your life as much as possible. It’ll reduce your stress of managing everything alone. Yours is a one woman show from running the household to taking care of the kids, and working full time jobs to support them.
  2. Make a list of what is important and put them in order of preference. What is the first priority (you should have clear concept about this) will come on the number one in the list. Do, whatever comes in the top of the list. And the rest?? Just forget them. It’ll keep you in balance.
  3. Let your kids make the habit of doing their job on their own. They should finish their work on their own without depending on you or their siblings. This helps them to be confident and responsible. And you also don’t have to worry about every single thing in your life.
  4. Give them freedom. Let them make their own decisions. You just let them know the positive or negative sides of the things. They will be matured when you trust in their instincts. Thus, it’ll help them find what is right or wrong when making decisions.
  5. Always talk with your kids. You must let your kids know that you are always available for conversation. You can talk about what has happened in your life. That may help them to open their minds to you.
  6. Schedule your alone time. This time (mine is at night) may help reduce your stress and refuel your energy and spirit to start another hectic day.
  7. Revive your passion. In our battle of life we always forget about our talents or God-given gifts. Once, you may love dancing and your stage performance might have pleased many. Why don’t you start again? This may make you feel stuffed and alive. Just as my passion for writing has ignited me to start blogging.
  8. Don’t you think we need friends to feed our spirits? We need them to make us laugh, encourage us or support us. They will walk beside us in our tough journey and help us remember who we are.

So, let’s enjoy being a mom, not a single mother and celebrate the precious gift of life, “Motherhood”.

This blog post is part of the blog challenge ‘Blogaberry Dazzle’ hosted by Cindy D’Silva and Noor Anand Chawla and sponsored by Queen’s Brigade. 

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    July 14, 2021 at 3:35 am

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    July 14, 2021 at 3:37 am

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  5. Harjeet Kaur

    July 14, 2021 at 1:32 pm

    Every word resonates in my mind, Shreemayee. Even I am a single mom and it is just as you have described it. More power to you and women like us.

  6. Shreemayee

    July 14, 2021 at 1:37 pm

    Thank you and more power to you as well.

  7. priyanka nair

    July 15, 2021 at 10:27 am

    I am with you Shreemayee, and I agree with all the points you have drawn out here. I am a single mother too and the bond I share with my girl is unique, and there is a sense of mental freedom like you said.

  8. Shreemayee

    July 15, 2021 at 10:29 am

    Yes dear,I really cherish this mental freedom.

  9. Jigna

    July 17, 2021 at 3:17 pm

    Apart from doing the best for your child, there must be guilt that a single mother has to deal with…you have given some very practical points for a single mother…

  10. smita saksena

    July 17, 2021 at 3:17 pm

    I can't even imagine that how difficult it would be to handle everything being a single mom. But I am glad that how you have taken it all with so much positivity and trying to enjoying motherhood. Keep rocking like this girl! More power to you dear!!!

  11. aditi

    July 17, 2021 at 3:17 pm

    Your post is quite relevant. Single mom plays the role of both the parents. You've written based on your experience. Hats off and more power to you 💕

  12. Raghav

    July 17, 2021 at 3:17 pm

    Gives so much of perspective to the problem I couldn't have known. Also, I like the fact that it states practical actionables rather than generic gyaan.

  13. Vasumathi DS Ponday

    July 17, 2021 at 3:17 pm

    Very well articulated Shreemayee. The journey of a single parent is not an easy one. But the points you have put forth from your personal experience definitely will make life easier for them. Kudos to all the single parents who raise kids to be such wonderful humans, not allowing their challenges to cloud their kids.

  14. Satabdi

    July 17, 2021 at 3:17 pm

    I cannot claim to know or understand the challenges of a single mother and your post has made things clearer for me. Kudos to you for managing it alone!

  15. Seema B

    July 17, 2021 at 3:18 pm

    You have said it so well Shreemayee. A single mother should also care about herself and not only her kids. Loved the words at the end… Enjoy being a mom and not a single mother.

  16. Shreemayee

    July 17, 2021 at 3:19 pm

    You're right, a single mother has to deal with some guilt in her..

  17. Shreemayee

    July 17, 2021 at 3:20 pm

    Thank you for your inspiring words 😊.

  18. Shreemayee

    July 17, 2021 at 3:22 pm

    I'm glad to hear such positive words.

  19. Mayura Amarkant

    July 18, 2021 at 2:24 am

    The journey of single moms is indeed praiseworthy! I loved the way you have touched the chord and understood the situation well. Your post will serve as a guiding light to many single moms. Keep writing!

  20. Akanksha Singh

    July 18, 2021 at 2:24 am

    I feel single mothers are so brave and raise much disciplined and kind kids. Especially with boys. They turn out so responsible , humble and kind.I have had such a friend.

  21. Shail Thosani

    July 18, 2021 at 2:24 am

    I loved the fact that you have chosen to highlight on the positive points of being a single mother rather than the negatives. This is the first time I have come across such positive attitude on being a single mother. Kudos to you.

  22. Shreemayee

    July 18, 2021 at 2:24 am

    Thanks dear for your support.

  23. Shreemayee

    July 18, 2021 at 2:25 am

    Yeah, that's quite true.

  24. Shreemayee

    July 18, 2021 at 2:26 am

    Yeah, there are negative points too. Yet it's much better to concentrate on the positive points only, so that you also can stay positive and happy 😁.

  25. Abha Singh

    July 19, 2021 at 4:43 am

    Being a single parent is not easy. You shared some very important and helpful tips. I agree, just enjoy being a mom, not a single mother and celebrate the precious gift of life, "Motherhood".

  26. Sindhu Vinod Narayan

    July 19, 2021 at 4:43 am

    My friend is a single mother and I can pretty much relate whatever you said here to what she is doing.

  27. suhavijay

    July 19, 2021 at 4:43 am

    Totally agree with your points Shreemayee. The single mother's journey as a parent is really commendable and needs to be applauded with whole heart.

  28. Madhu Bindra

    July 19, 2021 at 4:43 am

    I had brought up my kids single-handedly when my husband was posted in the field areas. The best advise is to set some rules, make them independent, and let them know they can always come to you if they have any problems.

  29. Sweta

    July 19, 2021 at 4:44 am

    Lovely post.it is not easy being a single parent. However, one should not lose the freedom while just completing duties. Worth a read.

  30. Ritu

    July 19, 2021 at 4:44 am

    I have immense regard for all the single mothers out there. The journey is not easy. I love the positivity in what you have written. I am sure it would be useful for single mothers who are looking for support and a guiding spirit.

  31. Shreemayee

    July 19, 2021 at 4:45 am

    Yes, motherhood is the best gift from God.

  32. A Lady Lawyer

    July 22, 2021 at 3:52 am

    Really appreciate your honesty here Shreemayee. I'm sure it's very difficult being a single mom, but with your practical approach you are an inspiration.

  33. Radhika Jindal

    July 22, 2021 at 3:52 am

    Being a single mother, it's difficult to manage everything. But yes! prioritising and staying organised helps a lot.

  34. Mehul Kaku

    July 22, 2021 at 3:52 am

    Raising a child is challenging and even more when you are a single mother. I cannot imagine how tough it must have been. I only pray that more strength and power to each angel Mom.

  35. Shreemayee

    July 22, 2021 at 3:53 am

    Thank you dear for your beautiful words.

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